I have never seen one I liked... because all of them are about 'male plus female'. Various hybrids of the signs for Venus and Mars, and pastel pink and blue. The pastel, especially, bugs me - it becomes something about reinforcing the gender roles of 1950s America. "It's okay to pick your own role", these colors say, "as long as it's one of the two approved ones".
To make matters worse, 'pastel' always feels feminine to me; if I was a FtM, I'd want some much butcher colors!
With that in mind, and a joking suggestion of stealing the Trans Am logo, I doodled in Illustrator.

Not quite there in colors or execution, but I think it's a start on something very different. It's not about the male/female chasm; it's about the rebirth. Proud, bright colors for the fire; an empty white slate for the phoenix, breaking out of the greyness of their previous life. And something firey like a phoenix is a reminder to get out and do something now that you're no longer spending every minute maintaining the pretense of the gender you were born in.
Also it works hung vertically or horizontally, which is a plus.
Comments? Especially from those of you who're on the female-to-male path - does this speak to you more or less than existing designs?
edit: I made some variants.

Top to bottom: cool grey ground, rather than warm grey; two versions of 'well, we're all pretty queer, so why not swipe the six-color rainbow of the gay pride flag?'.
2007-07-09 08:09 pm (UTC)
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2007-07-09 08:12 pm (UTC)
... ah, I suppose you're kinda right, though. The colors have bugged me about as much as the Rainbow Flag bugs me about homosexuality. There has to be a better way.
... although I don't think your flag is quite it yet.
2007-07-09 09:05 pm (UTC)
I'M GAY! say the rainbow flags. I LIKE BURLY MEN! the bear flags scream. I LOVE LEATHER! the leather flag hollers. I'm trans, all but one trans flag mutters.
This is a first stab at something that's as celebratory as all the other queer pride flags. It's a quick doodle looking for commentary, not a finished presentation by any means!
2007-07-09 10:27 pm (UTC)
I do think that a celebration flag is a good idea, and I know every TG wants a better one. But it seems to me being loud almost runs counter to the goals of being trans.
Maybe that's just my problem, though.
2007-07-10 01:12 am (UTC)
Not all of us.
I very much do want to say, "Look at us, we are proud to have hacked the hell out of our stifling gender cubbyholes, live it or live with it!" In fact, I have often said that. I'm looking for more than acceptance. I'm looking for curiosity, inquiry, understanding, change in others' attitudes.
Subdued is what I was when I hid at home for two years afraid that I'd look bad. I want those two years back, and putting one of these stickers on my car would be a good step toward that. (I'm leaning toward the cool grey field, but mostly because I've always loathed the rainbow as a symbol.)
2007-07-09 08:26 pm (UTC)
2007-07-09 09:13 pm (UTC)
I'm not sure it'd work in this one; it feels unbalanced right now, but I feel the fix is to make more refined drawings of the concept than my five-minute scribbles, rather than to add more. The starker a flag, the better. (Brazil and Albany being notable exceptions.)
I probably need to just brainstorm for transformative symbols in general and see what shakes out.
2007-07-09 09:17 pm (UTC)
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2007-07-09 08:29 pm (UTC)
i'd suggest the Albanian flag or other
heraldic imagery.
the phoenix is a beautiful iconographic idea. and frankly i'd also suggest
adopting the imagery, rather than any specific version, trans-am,
national, or other generated design. isn't the idea one of
self-determination? how about each makes a personal phoenix? perhaps something cute, perhaps something fierce, perhaps both, etc. slick and
minimal or baroque or rustic, etc.
the idea of it is excellent, and i think your execution of it here,
particularly the tailfeather action, is all Peggy.
2007-07-09 08:52 pm (UTC)
I do like the concept of making one's own personal version! I feel like there's got to be something to propagate the meme with, though; a standard image for the lazy to easily grab and display...
2007-07-09 08:37 pm (UTC)
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2007-07-09 08:40 pm (UTC)
I don't know if I actively like your alternative, but anything beats what's out there now.
2007-07-09 08:55 pm (UTC)
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2007-07-09 09:42 pm (UTC)
I think you're getting really close with this one. Tying the tailfeathers into the flames really emphasizes the message you verbalized. The Phoenix IS the Flame.
2007-07-09 10:38 pm (UTC)
There might be a hint of transhumanist thinking in this choice of message. Earlier today, after all, I was fantasizing about having modular genitals - different 'male' ones, different 'female' ones, varied ones that were both, neither, or Something Else.
2007-07-10 03:07 am (UTC)
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2007-07-09 11:19 pm (UTC)
That looks very familiar :D
2007-07-09 08:42 pm (UTC)
Oh! Oh! If this gets around enough, does that mean fundamentalist christians will say Harry Potter not only teaches witchcraft, but trans?
Re: That looks very familiar :D
2007-07-09 08:58 pm (UTC)
My initial scribble had it going vertically on a wide canvas, and had it coming out of the flame; I ended up accidentally losing that as I recomposed. Being connected to the flame is definitely a symbolic layer worth playing with.
2007-07-09 09:20 pm (UTC)
2007-07-09 09:46 pm (UTC)
I'm on the fence about the rainbow stripes. Stripes seem to be a given for the genre of 'queer pride flag' but making the imagery work against it is a pain!
2007-07-09 09:24 pm (UTC)
I might put some time into this, though, I don't think I'll be doing more than tossing ideas up. Something about having an icon designed by someone outside of that identity just doesn't give it credibility.
2007-07-09 09:56 pm (UTC)
By 'icon', do you mean something in the terrain of the Venus/Mars symbols used to represent female/male? The most elegant compromise I've seen out there, IMHO, is the use of Mercury. Though some feel that says 'specifically intersex' rather than 'in transition'. I've fiddled around with homebrew symbols in the same design domain as the planet symbols, but nothing's really worked.
Input is welcome; I'm listening to a lot of cisgendered voices here. And I'm trying to make this flag represent two very different, yet similar paths - the journey from male to female and the one from female to male. Trying to come up with something acceptable to someone who started as a girl and is becoming a man is, in some ways, presumptuous of me. In others not, since I'm explicitly making this about the change, not the result.
2007-07-09 10:48 pm (UTC)
Yahr?
2007-07-09 09:45 pm (UTC)
Re: Yahr?
2007-07-09 09:52 pm (UTC)
Re: Yahr?
2007-07-09 10:31 pm (UTC)
Arr, mateys! We be definin' our OWN gender roles on this tub!
Re: Yahr?
2007-07-09 11:54 pm (UTC)
Re: Yahr?
2007-07-10 03:09 am (UTC)
2007-07-09 09:51 pm (UTC)
I also like the idea about the personal versions of the flag where each person defines their own design and it got me to thinking: national flags are often defined with very specific aspect and other ratios. I rather like heraldic descriptions because they give the essence of the flag without holding it down to mathematical precision. Defining a flag to be a vague collection of connecting imagery takes this one step further out and I think it's great.
That said, I'd fly it. I'd like to see the white phoenix and flames on the warm grey background. Or perhaps on a bright single-color background. :)
2007-07-09 10:30 pm (UTC)
There is definitely something to be said for the Official Version just being 'a phoenix, emerging from flames', perhaps with certain colors and directiosn specified. A define-it-yourself flag for a self-definition...
2007-07-09 09:52 pm (UTC)
Of course, you have the top layer of the phoenix, racing away from its old self. But too i like how the flames could represent the CONSTANT and LIFE LONG challenges and dangers being transsexual will force on someone. The bird is fleeing/rising above that as well.
i prefer the grey to the rainbow coloured variants because frankly i don't see it as being a gay/lesbian issue. i prefer the grey over the navy because grey is a both a cold, hard colour, and a soft warm one. It could suit the mood of whomever is looking at it.
Too, it's a beautiful picture in on its own.
2007-07-09 10:07 pm (UTC)
I tend to read the rainbow flag as being a 'queer' flag rather than specifically 'men who love men, women who love women', so I figured that playing with it might work to create a few subtle associations: with general queerness, and with the 'stripes' iconography of most of the pride flags out there. Hmm, maybe if I did alternating deep blue/pastel pink ones. Maybe not; half my intent is to just get the hell away from those 1950s American gender color codes.
And yeah. I'm done with the basic part of my transition, and I often pass perfectly - but other times I utterly fail, and it impacts my mood, and could do far worse if I wasn't living in a generally veery queer-friendly city. Sometime sI can rise above that, sometimes it drags me down and I just have to go hide for a while.
2007-07-09 10:50 pm (UTC)
I don't entirely like it, though - it would be nice to have something that doesn't reinforce our current perceptions of male/female, but don't know of an alternative. I like that you're using rebirth, because that's closer to what it means to me.
Same for the Trine - it's a decent symbol, referencing male, female and combined ... but that's really better as an combined. This isn't about combining - this is about change, to me. Haven't figured out a symbol I like better, though, and the Trine is about as well known as any of the trans symbols get. But it's really not where I'm coming from.
2007-07-09 11:51 pm (UTC)
Also, this is on the road to Win.
Also also flag semiotics [cycle symbol] group ID [cycle symbol] non-national cultures [cycle symbol] future.
2007-07-10 02:09 am (UTC)
:)
2007-07-10 09:31 pm (UTC)
This resulted, somehow, in me trying to sing a mutated version of Kraftwerk's 'Trans-Europe Express' to Rik. I still don't know why. He tickled me because of this.